Quite often in life we pursue anything and everything that presents itself our way, any how and randomly that if a passer-by may pause and ask why we are doing whatever we are doing at that particular moment, we may lack concrete reasons to put across. The answers we may give them; may be such; “i don’t know”, i am just doing it”, i do not want to get bored”, and so many other unconvincing answers. This is a discussion i have been having with some friends of mine for some time now and every time we happen to meet. So the other day when we brushed over it again, i felt the urge to share my opinion regarding it, narrowing us down to this particular topic.
One of my friends was of the idea that people should live in the moment and enjoy life, embrace what comes across, take risks, let yourself loose then mistakes made in the process of “enjoying life”, will be corrected after wrongs have been made. I kept wondering; why cure if you can prevent? Which one is easier? This generation tends to do things the other way round which somehow seems easier at first but in the long run, turns out to be the hard way with heavy repercussions.
I was holding a different approach,( as always) far different from the “crowd”, i differed with the majority’s opinions. I was of the idea ( I am still) that not everything that we come across or comes our way in life is beneficial to us. We must not therefore get involved in all the nitty gritty parts of life even if there is no value added in the long run. We should stand to do things that make us better people, make us move forward, things that grow us and that are of benefit to us.
From that same crowd of my friends, another friend voiced that he didn’t see anything wrong with clubbing even after marriage. Of course to this i objected too. Just the idea of clubbing for starters, whether one is married or not, is not okay with me when one already dedicates their lives to serve God. Majority of us think that marriage changes much concerning one’s characters. It doesn’t change anything at all. It is always a very big lie when we assume that marriage will automatically make one a better person if they weren’t so, before venturing into it. It is better to get used to some things before going into serious commitments like marriage, it may just remain a title in the long run, if we do not re-assess and re-enforce on our strengths. Marriage may never change who we are but it may just remain to be like any other passage of life that we go through before death.
Digressed a bit, back to our topic. Another thing that really holds the greater percentage of lives of individuals in this generation is movies. These are among the things that comes our way, that as youths we give so much attention and think our lives really depends on the lifestyles inside those castings.We base our believes and thoughts on mere casts that are just money-making mechanisms.As a woman take for instance; you do not want to cook to your husband, because the latest song says so and everybody buys it, “i aint yo mama.” Who are you not to do what everyone is doing? You ask yourself and buy that as well.Results later prove negative, you realize you aren’t everyone and you are bound to suffer alone.
Movies are regarded to be so important in the current generation, that somebody would rather stay up late to finish a series but never even read a single Bible verse and memorize. Skive church and lessons to go to a movie theatre, watch it as 3 D! Very important! So what if i have no idea what Game of Thrones is all about? Majority would term me as “boring” or “too tied up”, “needing a little bit of loosening up.” “You do not know what you are missing!” I hold the opinion that there is so much more that can be done for fun, in a healthier way. Without double-standards of course.
I suggested to the friend who was talking about clubbing even in marriage, that’s there is double-dating plans where by one could go with another couple maybe out of the normal town set-up to some serene environs where the couples can bond, rejuvenate and share ideas. This is just one example out of the many ways to unwind in relationships in a Godly manner. But he insisted that even after the double-dating experience, clubbing must be included. I wondered silently the reason why there must be double-standards in life. At that point, i couldn’t convince him otherwise no more and the others too. So i chose to stand alone from the group.
What i was trying to argue in other words, is that, sometimes lack of knowledge of somethings in life, mostly the ones that do not really count in our lives is more beneficial than the knowledge of them, thus the topic; “Innocence sometimes counts more than awareness.“ I believe that there are some things in life, partly mentioned above, that if we we do not make ourselves aware of, we will never die and life will just be still intact and without a lot of struggles. In fact better. Somebody can be quick to object and defend themselves by saying that’s their way of having fun and there is no big deal after all.But the biggest question is, “how is you way of having fun helping you to serve God, does it encourage you more about Him or it is all about satisfying your self desires?” We are able to do perfectly well without such things and thus we should feel challenged to re-direct our energy in much better stuff, Godly purposes. I am of the opinion that sometimes it is better not to be aware of some things that brings more harm or rather to be able to enjoy them, you have to struggle first and all-through in the pursuit of happiness. Lets learn from Jesus, His yoke is the easiest and doesn’t require much.Mathew 11:28.
How many youths, including me, who have struggled to get through different addictions and some who are still struggling would not help but admit that their greatest wish in the midst of it all , is that they would not have not known about these stuff that seem good from outside but in reality they are packaged with deep heartaches and frustrations in the first place before getting involved in them. Name them: drugs, sexual immorality, gossip,gambling, to mention just but a few. At the introduction level dopamine plays with ones’ mind that these are in fact the best kind of ideas of having fun and boredom removers. At the juncture of being deeply rooted in, you probably feel empty, exhausted, angry and just like any other other thing that is not fun, is what such things prove to be. Something that once felt heaven, “the one thing you could not live without”, turn outs to be so normal or even so trashy that you do not even want to give it a second look. How sad! It is true we can pursue these things for years but we will never be satisfied, the realest satisfaction is only God.
This a pure illustration of how we invest our energies in very unfulfilling things that are limited, temporal and very unsatisfying. How good can it be if we turn back to Him. His love is guaranteed and is forever. It never harms or gives us any reason to fear. 1st John 4:18.
ILLUSTRATION BY THE CREATION’S STORY, ADAM AND EVE THEN THE SERPENT
The story of creation is the perfect example of all times. It explains how many a times knowledge of something brings us more destruction than it builds us. It harms us other than heal us. God had the perfect plan in mind for humans, by creating Adam and Eve but mid-way the serpent came in and disrupted it. Before the creation of Eve and serpent popping by uninvited, Adam was just living fine except for the fact that he needed somebody for companionship as was seen by God. Many a times we welcome stuff that should stay uninvited into our lives, we embrace them, make them feel at home,they form part of us then later we are left with regrets and disappointments hence lots of wars and jealousy in the world. Then we question the existence and love of God in the midst of all the madness we’ve created for ourselves. Proverbs 19:3. What we entertain that is beneficial should be regarded more than what harms us.
You see, the devil’s trick had been and will always be there to play with our minds, that there are better ways than the ones God have given to us, more appealing plans. The devil tries to convince people that his ways; are more easier, up to date, not so boring, easy to deal with, one do not have to be patient to achieve something or put up with something that they no longer have feelings towards. Eve was tricked this way. That whatever God had told them wasn’t good enough, there was something better in store that they needed to experience and enjoy. When we go Eve’s way and head to the devil; the aftermath of such experiences always harms us while accompanied with regrets, blames, frustrations, lack of self worth, rejection,fear; and yet again if we don’t turn away and allow Him to save us from such, the cycle continues. One heartbreak after the other in different spheres of life.Imagine all these packaged for one person as a box of gifts because they cannot just follow His commandments. There is no disappointments nor fear in the Lord, because fear has to do with punishment. 1st John 4:18. The many times we feel guilty and sad after various experiences in life, it maybe that we’ve done something wrong and so we fear and anticipate the punishment to come.
If something is from God it comes with confirmation, if it’s not, it comes with confusion. So however promising something may look, but it is accompanied with unending confusion there-by, it would be advisable to just stop pursuing such, so as to avoid getting hurt.
When such ideas that makes one digress from the truth, are presented to us, that there are better ways than whatever God has provided, then brethren, let do ourselves a favor and walk away. Standing your ground and defending your faith is not rude nor being too tied up. Let the world call you names but in return you will one day reign with Him when all is over. “When we endure with Him we will also reign with Him”; 2nd Tim 2.
I pray that we guard our hearts from various “uninvited visitors”and hence stop entertaining them, as far away as from the fence, before allowing them into the gates of our lives. Just the way one who is not infected yet is able to ran away from an Ebola infected person, is the same way we should ran away from these unhealthy stuff and stop seeking awareness of things that will do us more harm and reap us from our innocence there-by hindering us from knowing more about God. Be blessed.